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Provoking Thoughts: Breaking Societal Norms

Disclaimer: If you are quick to be offended, I would suggest not to read this. Note: If you are offended then maybe you need to examine your values and the meaning of existence. 

I awakened today feeling refreshed and ready to take on another day. I freshened up, headed to my office and picked up a book to read. I usually start the day with meditation, but I wanted to change it up a little today. I like to purposefully mix things up with my "daily routine" and not to be so "routine". In doing so, I feel like I am keeping things fresh and not to being robotic with a routine, so I decided to read a book first.

I have mentioned before that I enjoy reading self-help empowerment types of book. I am not really into fictional books. However, I do read it. I think the last fictional books I have read was the Twilightseries. [Side note: The books blows the movie out the water]. Nevertheless, great movies to watch and even more so awesome books to read. Today I am reading a book called The Code of the Extraordinary Mind by Vishen Lakhiani, who is the founder of Mindvalley. By the way I am not endorsing this book nor am I paid to do so. I actually really enjoy this book and I would not write about anything I do not believe. I came too far in my spiritual journey to allow currencies of mankind to dictate or influence my inner beliefs. 

The Code of the Extraordinary Mind [book] was a gift that my wife gave me. It is one of those books where I find it difficult to stop reading. It is so good and full of things that are thought provoking. I have to put a limit on myself, because I have other things I wantto do. Notice I said "want" and not "need"? I realize that I do not need to do anything, but breath and live. Most anything else is choice. I could read and finish this whole book in one or two days, but I am pacing myself. It gives me something exciting to do the next day. In this book Vishen writes about the things he refers to as "culturescapes". Lakhiani (2016) stated "The culturescape sets up rules on how to love, how to eat, how to marry, how to get a job. It establishes benchmarks to measure your self-worth." (p. 1). Basically, it is the societal norms, laws, or beliefs that limits people from reaching their true potential.

I grew up in a household where I was taught to never question a person of authority or else there would be consequences. This limiting idea was greatly enhanced and enforced in the military, Truly, it was like being a mindless robot, taking orders from another mindless robot. In a sense I was taught to allow people, of perceivable authority, to push me around. This would prove to be one of the things that impact me greatly. It was ingrained in me to follow orders and never question the orders, which were coming from a "superior". I want to address a couple things here; superiority over another person is an idiotic ideology. What if that person who is in the "superior" position of authority is an absolute mindless robot fueled by intimidation and self-validation (You know who you are)? That person would lead the group of people to where ever they may be going to absolute failure. I can think of a couple people right off the top of my head. Second, no one being is superior than the other. No body should be looking downto anyone, but only to literally look down to help pick them up.

In my observation through my experiences, people in positional authority tend to look for self-validation through their job employment and job titles. Like the new police officer who just put on a badge, now has "perceivable power" over another person, thus giving him the "god-like" mentality or attitude. Or the newly promoted worker into a supervisory position. Some people need these promotions or shiny badges to set value on their self-worth. I have seen this first-hand, in fact I was one of those nerdswalking around with a badge and gun thinking "I am unstoppable". It's true, my actions were pathetic and I was hiding something behind that shiny shield. I was hiding the fact that I was weak and too afraid to stand up for myself due to the social norms that were instilled in me. Back then, the badge defined me and gave me purpose. Since I was one of these mindless robots, I can spot one out from a mile a way. Should I drop some names? Of course I would not, but you know who you are. 

Getting back to the book, Vishen goes into detail about how these limiting social constructs limits humanities ability to move forward. I follow a set of rules for my personal being, but I do not force it upon my daughter or my household. I am a believer that as human beings, we are free to think for ourselves. I only guide my daughter from what I think is best, but she may have a better idea of accomplishing a task. In fact she normally has a better way of accomplishing a task. She is intelligent just like her mommy. My wife and I teach her to question everything. If it does not make sense, she needs to question it. 

This may be an unorthodox way of thinking, but I would much rather be free at my own will than to live in the shadows of another. I want to live my life and not anyone else's. The Code of the Extraordinary Mind is a great book and it may not be for everyone. It just gives another angle at viewing the aspects of life. Provoking Thoughts: Breaking Societal Norms.


Lakhiani, Vishen (2016). The code of the extraordinary mind. New York City, New York: Rodale Books.